I wish I were a FLY on Martha Stewart's wall.

I never really pay too much attention to other moms who seem to have 30 hour days, that have a natural knowledge for being creative, and obviously have amazing time management skills. I actually know of some friends of mine that seem to have it all together. Their home is always clean, they seem to have a great relationship with their spouse, and they always come up with the time (& Patience!) to do the most creative projects with their kids & even some projects around the house. I have no idea how they do it.  I really wish I could be a fly on their wall.

Today alone I worked non stop & yet feel like nothing was really accomplished. Both kids woke up at 4 a.m., the oldest fell back asleep but my 3yr old insisted on demanding; Cartoons, A juice Cup, a princess movie, claiming she was hungry was at the 6 a.m. marker, so I finally crawled out of bed (after going to sleep at 1 a.m. myself) went to the kitchen & put on a much needed pot of coffee. I got both kids fed, my 7yr old ready for school, drove her there, came home and began housework.

 I washed, dried & folded two loads of laundry. I washed a sink full of dishes from the night before that didn't get done. I swept the floors then  moved all my living room furniture to sweep under them. I re arranged the furniture (since I finally got around to taking down the Christmas tree) and by this time, I was starving so I sat for about 20mins, or long enough to eat a ham sandwich. Then I went through some paperwork that was stashed under the end tables before I realized the time, the hubs walked through the door which meant it was time to go pick up my daughter from school.

It is 3:45 p.m. by the time I returned home because today the girls wanted McDonald's for supper (KEEP YOUR EYES OUT FOR ANOTHER BLOG IN THE WORKS ABOUT TAKING YOUR KIDS TO MCDONALDS) I know they will be hungry again before bed time. Today I have spent the time watching t.v. with them when normally I would be in the kitchen cooking. We usually eat by 5:00 p.m., then I clean up the kitchen (OR) I spend time playing with the kids & relaxing on the couch with the hubs until 7 p.m. at which time I put the children in the tub. They are usually out with in 30 minutes so then I get them dressed, let them have a snack, brush their teeth and put them to bed at 8 p.m.

By this time I am usually exhausted, but I have to keep going. Toys are usually strewed all over the house, dirty cups/dishes in general are in every room, and the floors need swept again. (Of all the things I clean in one day, my floors are swept at least 2 or 3 times a day. *OCD* I walk around in socks & can't stand to feel dirt on the bottom of my feet!) By the time I have picked the house up to where it doesn't look like a tornado has came through my house then its usually after 10 p.m. and I give up. I usually sit down at my laptop and do my blogging or catch up on shows I have saved on my DVR until my eyes refuse to stay open, at which time I go to bed (I've been known to crash on the couch when the hubs is on night shift).

The way I see it.... I DONT SEE IT.... Please, one of you Martha Stewart wanna be moms out there please tell me how you do it, give me some tips, & PLEASE include how to make time for the hubs :)

- phishing -

In the last few days I've learned a new word: phishing: I have to admit, I honestly thought it was the word 'fishing' just with a different meaning, until now, when I looked up the exact definition to paste into this blog. This is funny yes, also known in my daily life as a Tiffany Moment. Anyhow, after looking it up on Wikipedia I have learned it is a little bit more detailed than what the hubs explained to me, but the general idea for this word in my blog is: phishing- a way of attempting to acquire information. This 'phishing' is done while trying to keep your true intentions secret. 

My husband experienced a situation where one of his so-called friends did something that really hurt both of our feelings, & ended up phishing around to see how upset the hubs really was. Instead of being a grown man and calling the hubs to clear things up, he simply sent a one word text to see how the hubs would respond. My hubs is not like me, I would have called up the friend and demanded to know what was going on, why I was being left out of the loop of things, instead, he has ignored any communication with these friends. I feel hurt for the hubs. I would never treat a friend that way. 

What a cowardly thing to do. ....Seriously! I have learned over the years that I am just by nature a curious person, I normally say nosey but after looking up that definition to be offensively curious, i can say i am not offensive in my curiosity. I am not afraid of asking questions, or telling people off when they offend me.

If I have done something to offend a friend, I wouldn't go 'phishing' to see how pissed at me they are. Adults need to learn how to act their age. You don't go around treating someone you say is a good friend as if they were some guy down the road that you just call when your in need. If in fact you do something offensive, you should call up your friend and apologize (I understand for men this is a hard concept) or you can come up with a manly way of making things right. What you do not do is offend your friend, then go ask them for a favor. Anyone that thinks this behavior is acceptable needs to re-evaluate their friendships.

In the mean time, the hubs & I have plenty of friends, true friends, and family members too. So we wont be missing out on anything but unnecessary drama if these select few so-called friends decide continue their phishing trip.

On a more positive note: I learned a new word - & realized I'm not nosey, I am simply curious.