I know I have not wrote a new blog post in a really long time, but I really havnt had much to discuss, ok, I havnt had anything to complain about. :) For the first time in my married life, things are so wonderful it's scary! The hubs and I have learned to communicate with one another, we have gained respect for one another, and we have started to be supportive of one another. We are now a TEAM. There is no more I or HE or SHE, it's WE.
Anytime a decision is to be made, we discuss it and agree on the action to take. With the issue of problems I was having with his family members and how they were making a difference between our two daughters, well, that person hasn't been coming around. I personally stopped all non essential communication and surprisingly I think that is what helped that situation the most.
With my children... My oldest, just celebrated her 8th birthday on 9/1 - She is 8 going on 16 :) She was having issues with stealing during the summer. We were told she has a problem with 'impulse control' due to her ADD/ADHD. I also realized that her medication had stopped working during the summer and have since increased her medication milligrams and we are confident this should help with the impulse control disorder.
We signed her up for cheer-leading. This is her second year, she cheered back in 2010 (that was when I left my family). This time around things are going more smoothly. She seems to enjoy it more, which helps.
She now has braces! This is a big adjustment. It is affecting me more than I thought it would. Making sure she brushes them correctly is annoying to me but the results are amazing. AFTER ONLY 24hours this is what happened!
My youngest, the baby, she is about to turn 4yrs old this coming Tuesday, 9/25. She is taking gymnastics at her pre-school one day a week for an hour & my mother in law signed her up for dance class (ballet/tap) one day a week. She says she LOVES gymnastics but she says she don't like Dance LOL :)
With ME....I've been at my job for 8 months and I still love it very much. I am still through a temp service but hopefully, they will follow through with their promises to have me hired within the company by the first of the year. I am still currently off all medication for my bipolar disorder. I am still uncertain if I believe I am bipolar. I do agree I have anxiety issues, but what full time working mother & wife doesnt have anxiety problems? :)
I want to get back to writing b/c as I feel right this very moment, I LOVE TO WRITE. However, I stay so busy! I get off work, get the kids, stop by grocery store, cook supper, pick up the house a tiny bit while doing homework with the oldest, feed family, give baths, then get everyone ready for bed. Most nights I fall asleep when I am merely "taking a break", having no intention of going to sleep yet I wake up and its time to do it all over again. My weekends are packed as well. Every Saturday my oldest has a game to go cheer for then we are either busy with family/friends birthday parties or we have family things planned for us to enjoy & Sunday is Church Day & REST day.
We have started back going to church again. This time, we have started to attend a church of God. It's a bit different than our normal Southern Baptist, but I felt "at home" from the moment I walked into their doors.I feel my life is finally going in the right direction, I feel happy with how things are going in my life and I honestly hope that I am continued to be blessed.
THE WAY I SEE IT.........
If you dont feel like there is anything to be gained by my story, your wrong. I see so many people feel like giving up on LIFE when they get 'down in there dumps' but if you go back to where I was in life back between October 2010 through February 2011 and compare that to where I am in my life NOW -
I can give hope to people out there that think THINGS CANT GET BETTER.......BECAUSE IT DID FOR ME!
Do you mind me asking how you turned things around with your husband? My boyfriend and I are going through a pretty rough patch. Neither of us want to give up but we don't know how to communicate and when we try to things just get worse.
ReplyDeleteWow, that sounds familiar. Well, to be honest. The truth is, I stopped trying to be in control. We were both fighting for the upper hand and when you do the tug of war with every area of your relationship, its bound to fail. I found that FOR US, we had to have many long, deep, hard conversations. We had to break down and open up about the things we are truly passionate about. Neither of us have changed how we feel but merely changed our approach to how we deal with things. For instance; with the person that is my husbands family member that treats our daughters differently. I still dont like this person, I still do not want my daughters around them, BUT I told my husband that since it is his family and he doesnt see any problems then if he chooses to let our girls visit with her then I am not to be involved. I do not want to be asked to drop off or pick up the kids. I do not make any phone calls to this person. I make it a point to NOT speak to her unless it is absolutely necessary and I have no other choice (which has only happened twice) WELL what happened is my hubs was about to see for himself how she is with our kids and has a better understanding of why I felt the way I did. I let go of my need to control the situation and it helped. I never thought that things would work out with that attitude, but they did. It has also helped me to have a third party (someone not rooting for either person) to help me see what my hubs might be thinking or feeling. In my case, it was my therapist. She is wonderful. *HOPEFULLY THIS INFORMATION HELPED YOU IN SOME WAY!* PRAYER WORKS TOO! I START WITH THAT FIRST FOR EVERYTHING BUT SOMETIMES YOU HAVE TO MAKE PHYSICAL CHANGES. :-) GOOD LUCK!
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