My hubs & I have taken a positive turn in our relationship. He is showing a genuine interest in my blogs and has even threatened me with creating a blog of his own. I have to admit, he is a very funny man and I am hoping he is not serious, he would steal all my friends, followers & would surpass me with his popularity. To start off, he wanted us to team up on a blog. He knows I have superior writing skills (OK, well that & the fact that he is too lazy to do it himself) & he has the material so this post is a team effort, from Hubs and Myself.
If you ask your husband if he knows who "BUCK" is, I am sure he will know what your talking about. All men have heard of him at some time or another. He isn't always referred to with this name but the idea is generally the same. BUCK can also be referred to as: Jody, Milk man, Mail man, Pool boy, Gardener etc...you get the idea. Well, since my hubs works at a company where most of it's employees are MEN and they all work long hours they speak of "Buck" often. Sometimes when I get that dreaded phone call (or text) that hubs is having to work a double shift he will make comments like "I better not come home to find some of my beer is missing!". He comes home with new "Buck" stories that have been shared around the plant, passed down from man to man like some sort of "rite of passage".
One of the first times I ever heard about this mystical man the hubs said one of his co-workers told him, "You want to know the KEY to a Successful marriage?...hubs replies, "What?"...Guy, " ALWAYS CALL HOME BEFORE YOU LEAVE WORK EARLY!" I was really confused as to why a man would need to call home before getting off work early, so the hubs told me what the guys say at work. "One of the main reasons a Guy knows to call home before leaving work is because he knows if he gets home to find Buck in his house, there is going to a fight, & lets face it, after working a 12 or 16 hour shift, he really doesn't want to get his ass kicked in his own front yard by the man that is fucking his wife".
These sayings or stories are really funny and so we (Hubs & I) decided to share some of our most memorable ones with you. This is just the beginning as there are many many more buck stories out there.
1.Guy who liked to work a lot of overtime. So, one day the boss man comes to ask if (lets just call him JOE) wants to work an extra shift so Joe takes it. Joe decides to call his wife to let her know. Upon wife getting news, she replies, "Its 1:30 right now, at 7:00 p.m. there is fucking going on at this house, you can be apart of it or not, it's your choice!"
2. Guy gets ready for work one morning, he goes to the fridge to get his lunch and takes notice of a dozen eggs, a pound of bacon and a 12pk of Budweiser, thinking to himself he is going to enjoy them when he finishes his shift. Guy gets home from work, goes to the fridge to find there is only 2 eggs left, the bacon is gone and he now has 2 natural lights sitting in the place of where his Budweiser was. Now you know damn well his wife hasn't drank a 12pk of beer & ate up all the bacon & eggs by herself, hell she don't even drank beer! As if this wasn't enough, he goes to take a shower and notices a wet/used towel laying on the bathroom floor as the wife is yelling "Don't use up all the hot water, I'm next!"
3. Guy comes home from work to find that the dresser the wife has always wanted him to move has now been moved to the other side of the bedroom. Guy asks his wife "How did you do this?", the wife's response, " oh, I just took all the clothes out of the drawers.", guy goes over and pulls out a drawer to find that all the clothes are still in the same position they were this morning when he was getting ready for work!
4. Guy goes to do bills one day and notices $80 spent at Victoria Secret, Guy says to wife "when the hell did you go buy this, and where is it?, The last time I saw some lace panties on you was over a year ago!!". Guy Goes back to the bills to find a new phone service purchase, a boost mobile to be exact. Guy says to himself, "Wait minute, she has a Sprint phone, on MY account! What the hell is she doing purchasing a prepaid phone!?
5. One day guy comes home from work, looks at checking account to see if they have enough money to go out to eat, taking notice that his wife just bought $20 in gas earlier in the day. Guy decides to drive her car only to find her gauge is on Empty and he can't even reach the pedals! "Where the hell has she been to run out that much gas in 8hrs & who the hell has been driving her car, you know damn well at 5ft 5 aint no way in hell she can reach them pedals either!?!
The way I see it....These are just a few signs that you may or may not have a "buck" in your life.
TO BE FAIR...HUBS MUST GET HIS SAY IN TOO!
The way (hubs) sees it.... While most men trust their wives & do not believe they are screwing around, there is always going to be a group of men that will tell him that its inevitable that he will experience a "buck" at some time or another.
If I made you laugh, or even smile Please........be kind.......SHARE! LIKE! & COMMENT! ESPECIALLY IF YOU HAVE ANY BUCK STORIES OF YOUR OWN!!! WE'D LOVE TO HEAR THEM!!!
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Tuesday, May 17, 2011
Swooping
I still don't quite understand fully what provokes someone to become involved with a married person?
What is so hard about saying to the person, "get a divorce then we can see where this goes". It is not excusable. There is no if ands or buts about it. If you have an interest in someone that is involved with someone else why would you want to pursue them?
My husband and I both were involved in relationships outside of our marriage. D was my "other person". Out of respect for MY HUSBAND, I will not give the name of his ex-girlfriend But I will reference her as "MBW". Everyone knows her name anyway so it doesn't matter. (When you sleep with a married man, there are consequenses, and being talked about by the wife are one of them!)
From my point of view D saw me as a useful tool. A way out of poverty. He saw me as someone he could use. He didn't see me as a wonderful girl that he could love and make happy. He saw me for what could he get out of me. "MBW" was there to listen to Jamie and give advice but at what point did she think about crossing that friendship line? Did she see the same from my husband that D saw from me, A useful tool? Did she look at him as her way back into Alabama, a father figure for her kids, or just someone to use for sex? Did she really believe after 7 years of marriage it would be over just like that and that she could swoop in and have him all to herself?
Going back to what I can remember, it was around June that she entered our lives. She was dating one of Jamie's friends from work. Everything started out innocent, as a friend on Facebook. She even had added me at one time as a mutual facebook friend. The relationship she had with Jamie's friend didn't last very long but even after it ended for whatever reason she continued to talk to Jamie online.
At first, I thought nothing of it, just some random chick that is trying to hang on to her ex by keeping mutual friends. I am not sure how much time went by but soon she began texting Jamie's cellphone. Around August, just like every year before Jamie and I started having our usual fights. He became distant even faster this time. I could tell something was different. I didn't have anyone to turn to so I tried harder to make him happy. I thought that because I had a full-time job that kept us from spending much time together that was some of the reason for our fights so I quit my job. This enabled me to make sure the house and kids were taken care of. It also gave us more time together with his swinging shifts. Nothing I did made things better. Our fights kept getting worse and eventually I became suspicious of this female that was on his facebook.
Over and over I questioned her motives, and questioned their relationship. Over and over he denied anything was going on and even suggested that I was having another emotional affair of my own, which for once wasn't the case. Jamie denied her being anything more than overly friendly. So, to keep the peace, I backed off and let it go. When I realized things were not getting any better and I made my plans to leave Jamie, I had no idea how close he and "MBW" had become.
It wasn't until after I came back home in February that I learned she and him had discussed having a date before I ever left. Also, she made her move on Jamie about a week after I left him. So, my gut instints were right the whole time. She is like a vulture, she preyed on my husband waiting for him to become vulnerable then she made her move. I now know her motives were there way before I left. She was preying on him waiting for my mistake so she could swoop in on a man in trouble.
When you are in a serious relationship with someone you want to be their #1 but how can you honestly see yourself as the #1 if they have someone else on the side? It must take a person with very low self worth to do this. More importantly, once the relationship is resolved and the couple remain together what makes it so hard for the "other person" to just back off and give that involved person some time and space to work on their relationship. The "other person" is never thinking of anyone else, they are only concerned with what happiness they can get out of this situation. More importantly if kids are involved they should stay away until all matters are settleed. Have some consideration of the children and how important it is for them to have both parents in their life.
So, I ask...what mindset do you have to be in to go swooping in that fast on a marriage in trouble, without giving it time for any healing, or any understanding at all.
Bottom line, don't prey upon married people. It hardly ever works out to "the other person's" advantage. You will look pathetic, and desperate. Don't swoop in while they are vulnerable, don't swoop in at all.
What is so hard about saying to the person, "get a divorce then we can see where this goes". It is not excusable. There is no if ands or buts about it. If you have an interest in someone that is involved with someone else why would you want to pursue them?
My husband and I both were involved in relationships outside of our marriage. D was my "other person". Out of respect for MY HUSBAND, I will not give the name of his ex-girlfriend But I will reference her as "MBW". Everyone knows her name anyway so it doesn't matter. (When you sleep with a married man, there are consequenses, and being talked about by the wife are one of them!)
From my point of view D saw me as a useful tool. A way out of poverty. He saw me as someone he could use. He didn't see me as a wonderful girl that he could love and make happy. He saw me for what could he get out of me. "MBW" was there to listen to Jamie and give advice but at what point did she think about crossing that friendship line? Did she see the same from my husband that D saw from me, A useful tool? Did she look at him as her way back into Alabama, a father figure for her kids, or just someone to use for sex? Did she really believe after 7 years of marriage it would be over just like that and that she could swoop in and have him all to herself?
Going back to what I can remember, it was around June that she entered our lives. She was dating one of Jamie's friends from work. Everything started out innocent, as a friend on Facebook. She even had added me at one time as a mutual facebook friend. The relationship she had with Jamie's friend didn't last very long but even after it ended for whatever reason she continued to talk to Jamie online.
At first, I thought nothing of it, just some random chick that is trying to hang on to her ex by keeping mutual friends. I am not sure how much time went by but soon she began texting Jamie's cellphone. Around August, just like every year before Jamie and I started having our usual fights. He became distant even faster this time. I could tell something was different. I didn't have anyone to turn to so I tried harder to make him happy. I thought that because I had a full-time job that kept us from spending much time together that was some of the reason for our fights so I quit my job. This enabled me to make sure the house and kids were taken care of. It also gave us more time together with his swinging shifts. Nothing I did made things better. Our fights kept getting worse and eventually I became suspicious of this female that was on his facebook.
Over and over I questioned her motives, and questioned their relationship. Over and over he denied anything was going on and even suggested that I was having another emotional affair of my own, which for once wasn't the case. Jamie denied her being anything more than overly friendly. So, to keep the peace, I backed off and let it go. When I realized things were not getting any better and I made my plans to leave Jamie, I had no idea how close he and "MBW" had become.
It wasn't until after I came back home in February that I learned she and him had discussed having a date before I ever left. Also, she made her move on Jamie about a week after I left him. So, my gut instints were right the whole time. She is like a vulture, she preyed on my husband waiting for him to become vulnerable then she made her move. I now know her motives were there way before I left. She was preying on him waiting for my mistake so she could swoop in on a man in trouble.
When you are in a serious relationship with someone you want to be their #1 but how can you honestly see yourself as the #1 if they have someone else on the side? It must take a person with very low self worth to do this. More importantly, once the relationship is resolved and the couple remain together what makes it so hard for the "other person" to just back off and give that involved person some time and space to work on their relationship. The "other person" is never thinking of anyone else, they are only concerned with what happiness they can get out of this situation. More importantly if kids are involved they should stay away until all matters are settleed. Have some consideration of the children and how important it is for them to have both parents in their life.
So, I ask...what mindset do you have to be in to go swooping in that fast on a marriage in trouble, without giving it time for any healing, or any understanding at all.
Bottom line, don't prey upon married people. It hardly ever works out to "the other person's" advantage. You will look pathetic, and desperate. Don't swoop in while they are vulnerable, don't swoop in at all.
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