From the day we said "I DO" my husbands aunt has made my life miserable. I honestly do not recall meeting her, I just remember my wedding day disaster revolving around HER. It was a hectic day, as any wedding day is, but I had my ducks in a row, certain people were in charge of certain things, but Nancy was not one of those people. I had to leave to go pick up my flowers from the store and as I was leaving my father in law was setting up the archway and chairs according to how I wanted the isle to form. The wedding took place at the home of my in-laws, in front of a huge oak tree. I left with complete confidence that he would make sure it was finished before I returned. Well, it was, just not how I said I wanted it. I became frustrated, irritated, angry...all you ex brides can imagine. When I asked what had happened I was informed that the change was made by Jamie's aunt, Nancy, because she didn't like the way it looked!!! OMG!! Are you freaking serious! Who is getting married here....ME NOT YOU! Needless to say, there wasn't enough time to change it all back how I wanted before guests started to arrive so, she got her way and I had to sit back and keep quiet - - - 1st offense of disrespect!
Of course, being the nice kind hearted person I am, I quickly got over my frustration with her and went on about my life. After giving birth to Kensi Nancy started playing a serious roll in our family. She kept kensi for us whenever we wanted a night out (which was often back then b/c I was fresh off the 21 wagon), and then later on she began to keep her daily while I went back to work. Years went by and Nancy formed a strong loving bond with Kensi that i thought was amazing and was so thankful for. - - Now, I regret letting her have that much time with my child.
The disrespect continued during the times kensi was a small baby. I recall instances when I purchased an outfit and sent her to Nans wearing it only to pick her up to the pants being CUT with scissors because Nan felt they were "flooding" on her. Another time, she cut the feet out of kensi's pj's because she said kensi was falling too much. Finally, the biggest incident that stands out in my mind is when kensi's hair was changing from dark to blonder it went through a 'red' phase that Nan didn't like so she took it upon herself to put "sun-in" in kensi's hair. I only found out because I was talking to my husbands sister-in-law when she informed me of the act. ----2nd offense of disrespect
Years went by and we continued to let her get kensi for sleepovers, it gave me a break and some alone time with the spouse. We always had our issues but none like what we have been experiencing these past 2years. We since had another daughter, Madison (MADI for short) and Nancy shows a huge difference in the amount of Love, Attention & affection she gives them. We did very little about this in the younger days of Madi because I know how hard it is to have a 4 year old and a newborn. Nan would keep both girls but it was very rare. After Madi became a terrible toddler Nan pretty much stopped getting her altogether except when I was in desperate need for a sitter and even then she would not watch them both overnight.
My next few blogs I am going to go into detail about the fights and arguments I have had recently with her. This blog was more or less for giving a history of how nan became such an important person in our life and more importantly to show why she is so deeply bonded with kensi.
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