Don't you just hate it when you get a "gut feeling" about something and it turns out you were right? I know a lot of times I will brag & say "oh, I told you so, I just knew it!" Well, there are many times I get such feelings and hope & pray that I am wrong.
Just last week, I had one of these that turned out I was right and i was so disappointed.
Well, it had been a week since my fall out with nan. I had not seen or heard of anything so I just assumed she was going to leave us alone. Yeah, I couldn't get that lucky. My mother in law called saying she wanted to come get the girls to take all the grand-kids out to eat and that nan was coming with her. I knew this was just nan's way of going around my rule to see kensi so I told her that the hubs and I would be going as well. If you guessed nan backed out of going, you are right. Oh, but she didn't stop there. I honestly felt in my heart that my mother in law was in a way "helping" nan by using herself as a way to get kensi to be able to see nan. Which, like I said: I never said nan couldn't see kensi, I just said if she wanted to see her then she was to come to our house.
Two days later, my mother in law says she wants to come by and visit the girls while she waits to go meet up with her daughter. She wasn't here 15minutes before she mentioned taking kensi with her to Target to pick out a toy for one of kensi's boy cousins. Immediately I felt my stomach drop. The reason: Kensi does not take her adhd meds on the weekend to help counter act her loosing weight from lack of appetite therefor she was being WILD, Kensi is not good about going into a store and not asking for something, she will ask for everything, and get upset if she doesn't get anything at all. I felt like there was more to this but at the same time I love my mother in law, i respect her and would NEVER think her to purposely go behind mine and the hubs rules about her sister nan.
After 4hours past, I was very concerned, I told the hubs I knew something was up. They were not at target for that many hours. I just knew she had snuck her off to go see nan. At 5pm I called to tell her she needed to be heading home only to find out they were. I asked " Ya'll haven't been at target this whole time, have you?" and what do ya know... "No, we haven't. Nan called crying to see kensi so I took kensi to see her.".
My eyes filled with tears, I could barely talk. I said, "you know our rules, why did you do that?" She claimed she didnt think she did anything wrong, I said fine, you can discuss it with your son and I when you get here. Of course, the hubs had tons to say about it before she got here, and then had little to say. He said "she pulled the stupid card...the I DID'NT KNOW", and since we never said specifically to her that she is not to sneak kensi off to see nan, how could i argue with her!????
I feel in my gut that she knew exactly what she was doing was wrong. Otherwise, i feel like she would have called the hubs or me to say.."Hey, nan is crying to see kensi, do you mind if I take her to see her?" which of course we then would have said "NO YOU MAY NOT! TELL NAN IF SHE WANTS TO SEE KENSI TO COME TO THE HOUSE LIKE WE TOLD HER TO DO!"
She doesn't want in the middle of the situation: So she says: & yet she took kensi to see her, having complete knowledge of the fight that took place only a week prior. It really sucks to have people so boldly disrespect you, to your face & not have anyone to stand up by your side to defend you.
At least now she knows that we consider that wrong and says it wont happen again. Now, I cant wait to see what situation they come up with next for sneaking kensi to see nan.
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