December 1st marked 8 years that I have been with my husband. Unfortunately he had to work that night so we planned to go out for dinner the following night 12/2/11. This year I wanted our night to be full of love and so I had a fun night planned for us. A nice dinner at Outback steakhouse, Christmas shopping for the girls and then, if we had the time, a round of karaoke with some friends. There was One problem in our way, we didn't have a babysitter.
At the last minute I resorted to calling Nan. She had not seen Kensi since Thanksgiving day (which was only a week) so I figured she would be willing to watch them for a few hours. She agreed and so we had our date. We didn't make it to karaoke b/c nan was ready for us to come get the kids. My hubs called as we left the toy store to let her know to get their things together b/c we were on our way. & THIS IS WHERE THE NIGHT GOT RUINED.
We show up to get the kids and the hubs went in while I sat in the car. When I realized it was taking awhile I went inside. Madi was in her pj's ready to go home, while kensi was walking around in her panties. I took one look and already knew what was going on. Nan thought that because she offered to watch both girls that I would be ok with Kensi staying the night while madi had to come home. Hubs and I both discussed this very scenario on the way there so we told kensi to get dressed to come home and she began to cry. Hubs then took Madi out to the car, & stayed there. After the hubs left me alone in the house with Nan is when she decided to show her true Evil side.
Kensi was walking around sobbing while Nan got her some clothes together. Nan began to console kensi while saying "I guess you can help bj another time" and so I asked what was she talking about. She said that her son bj asked kensi to come over to his new house early in the next morning to help decorate or something (i dont remember really). Did she really just do that? YES, she really did just try to make kensi feel bad for not being able to stay. I explained to her that she should have discussed it with me or the hubs, that if her son wanted kensi to do something with him he should have called to ask us if it was ok. Nan looked up at me, and YELLED " I CANT TAKE THIS ANYMORE! "What's the big damn deal?, Why can't she stay?", so I informed her of the plans we already had made for me to go pick up kensi's best friend early in the morning for her to spend the weekend with kensi. I also told Nan that it was wrong of her to think that Kensi could stay just because she kept madi for a few hours & that there was NO discussion whatsoever about a sleepover. She claimed that my hubs told her kensi could stay (which was a lie) so I said "ok, really? I doubt that considering we discussed this on the way here so let me go get him!".
As I walked to the door she was yelling at me "Never mind, its ok, keep playing games, you only want me to keep them when its convenient for you!" **Yeah, I had just LET kensi go to her house the week before to stay for not one but two days (the day before & day of thanksgiving) just simply b/c she was out of school and wanted to see her nanna** So all that she said was a load of crap & she knew it. I yelled at the hubs to come and take control of his aunt, yeah the way I yelled at him wasn't nice and therefor He stayed in the car while she continued to get in my face.
At this point, kensi was sobbing, saying for us to stop yelling and then her son rocky came down from sleeping and told us we should shut up and stop fighting in front of kensi. (The nerve he had! Kensi has came home MANY MANY times upset with rocky and nan for fighting in front of her) She began to bash my hubs mom for not being a better grandparent, as if that is why she spends so much time with kensi. She bashed me for leaving my family (which had nothing to do with why we were arguing). Nancy gave me countless excuses as to why she does not get Madi, they range from "the bond" she has with kensi is the only reason she does so much more for kensi to, its a form of "punishment" (I guess I don't deserve to have time away from both kids) She kept yelling "I CANT TAKE THIS", so I told her she didn't have to. She said it was too hard watching kensi cry for her, so I pointed to the car and said "What about that little baby over there, you have no problem walking away from her when she is crying out your name!". She kept referencing Kensi and got all up in my face, I guess she was hoping I would punch her in her face (don't get me wrong, I really wanted to BUT I'm better than that) So I stepped into her, pointed at her face (actually almost touched her nose) while yelling " I DON'T JUST HAVE 1 KID, I HAVE 2! i DON'T GET TO CHOOSE A FAVORITE AND YOUR NOT GOING TO EITHER! YOU WILL NO LONGER BE ALLOWED TO SHOW A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN MY GIRLS. YOU CAN EITHER GIVE BOTH OF MY KIDS YOUR LOVE & ATTENTION OR NEITHER WILL HAVE IT!". She actually had the audacity to say FINE, just leave, I wont have anything to do with either of them. So, I said fine...Kensi go get your things from the house that you want b/c you wont be coming back. Of course, she refused to let kensi in the house so I sent her to the car. It was at this time that the hubs got out of the car, but he was NO HELP. Actually, he pointed at her and said "That's enough, YOU HUSH!" but then he turned to me and said "YOU SHUT UP AND GET IN THE CAR!" Geez, that hurt a little. I agreed and began walking to the car, but not before getting out My last words to Nan.
"Nan, all you had to do is the right thing. Love both my kids. You did this to yourself. I will NEVER keep kensi from seeing you, but she is no longer allowed at your house, neither of my kids are. . . ."IF YOU WANT TO SEE KENSI, YOU KNOW WHERE I LIVE!"
I kept repeating these words as I went to my jeep & drove away.
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